Just like men, women make some bedroom blunders, too, when it comes to sex. In fact, women are sometimes worse culprits when it comes to buying into sexual myths like, "Men are like a lightswitch, they are either 'on' or 'off' when it comes to their drive." So let's start with that myth and move on from there.
- Men can get turned on just with a breeze blowing by.
Maybe that's true if the guy's 22, but beyond that, men definitely have times when they need more than a breeze to find sex appealing.
Expecting a man to know what turns you on. Why should a man know your body better than you do? Let your partner know what you like. Better still, show him.
Not reciprocating during lovemaking. Some women really do just lie there and expect the male partner to do all the "work." Men love to be made love to, so don't overlook your opportunity to please your partner.
Thinking sex is "messy." Well, so is making a salad, when you think about it! The odors and fluids that go along with sex are suppposed to be sensual, not gross. Start thinking about them that way and sex will be a lot less gross to you.
Certain positions are "unladylike." I've had women explain that having sex "doggy style" is too animalistic for their tastes, or that being on top is too
"revealing." Really, it's a little like deciding to eat with your fingers, a knife and fork, or chopsticks–they all accomplish the same goal. One position is not superior to another–it's just some taking get used to.
Refusing to let a partner try anything new. You can't even stand eating the same meal twice in a week, why would you expect your partner to want to have sex the same way every time?
Hiding sex toys. If you need a toy to have an orgasm, admit it and show your partner what you like. No need to be embarrassed by your sexual needs.
Concentrating on his genitals. Men like to be touched. Everywhere.
Making love way too serious an endeavor. True for men, too, but women tend to want sex to be very serious. I guess if it's serious, then it can't be sinful. But who said having fun in bed is a sin? Go ahead, laugh, giggle, and play.
Sticking to your bedtime routine no matter what. Sometimes women get bent out of shape when their partner approaches them for sex while they're brushing their teeth at night. Is it so odd to think that if you're getting into bed, your partner might want sex? Especially if your breath is minty fresh and nice? You can always put on your cuticle cream after you have sex.
Always being too tired for sex. Making love doesn't take the same energy as running a marathon. Besides, sex is energizing. Put your feet up and relax so that you have some energy left for a little pleasure in your life.
A man's erection is all about you. Big, big mistake. A man can be under stress, not feel well, or just not have been as much in the mood as he thought. Don't get offended. Just calmly try doing something he likes, and if he doesn't get hard, then invite him to help you have an orgasm some other way.
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