Quick thoughts and tips on managing low sex drive in men:
- Low drive in men
is relatively rare.
- Low drive in men
is sometimes related to other male sexual problems like erectile dysfunction
and premature ejaculation. - Depression can be a cause of low sexual interest.
- A partner’s
sexual problems, like pain with intercourse, can also cause low drive.
- Shame about one’s
body, weight gain, or signs of aging can cause a man to avoid sex.
- Often, low drive
in men is caused by relationship problems such as unexpressed anger or poor
communication.
- Men with low
drive should have their testosterone levels checked.
- Sometimes the
problem is not so much low drive as mismatched drive; women do sometimes have a
higher drive than the partner.
- Planning for sex
instead of waiting or feeling pressure to feel desire can be preferable for
many couples.
- Looking at, reading,
or talking about erotic materials can be helpful.
- Negative
attitudes about sex (sex is “dirty” or something a man has to do to keep his
partner happy) don’t help.
- Questions about a
man’s sexual orientation can be explored.
- Looking at
pornography can take sexual energy away from a man’s drive to be with his
partner.
- An affair can
also interfere with a man’s desire for his partner.
- A woman who has a
stronger drive needs to be supportive of her partner.
- A man whose
partner has a stronger drive needs to be understanding of his partner’s needs
for sex.
- Poor lifestyle
habits such as lack of exercise or sleep, or smoking or drinking, can
contribute to low desire.
- Some medications,
including antidepressants, can cause low desire.
A man's low sex drive shouldn't be ignored. If you're uncertain why your drive is low, consider consulting with a physician and / or sex therapist.