10 Top Reasons to Use a Vibrator (Even If You’re Married)

by | Jun 9, 2009 | Great Sex for Couples, Great Sex for Men, Great Sex for Women

Vibrators_feature More than half of women and nearly half of men have used a vibrator as part of their sex play, according to a blog post by sex educator Cory Silverberg.  That's compared to only 1% of people way back in the 70's (but I'm guessing most people lied, using a vibrator back then would have been considered completely embarrassing, worse than having a bra strap show).

What is it about vibrators that make them so much fun?  Well, everyone has a different reason for using them.  It is interesting to note that a lot of couples that I see in my practice don't use vibrators, even though many fit the most common demographic according to Xandria (white, Christian, Republican women).  I find that many people fear that a vibrator will replace intimacy in the bedroom, but that's just not true.

If you're in the group that has never used a vibrator, or if you need some inspiration to dust off the one hidden in your bedroom drawer, here is some inspiration in my top 10 list:

  1. Vibrators feel good.  Vibrators tickle the nerves and build great tension in the genitals, which feels fantastic when it is released.
  2. They are efficient.  If a woman (or man, for that matter) feels a little too tired but still wants to have pleasure, a vibrator can help get the job done without much effort.
  3. They help a woman understand her body.  Stimulation with a vibrator can help a woman figure out just how much stimulation and where she needs it to have a good orgasm.  Check out this little finger model by Trojan.
  4. Different types can help someone explore all sorts of orgasm.  There are vibrators for clitoral, G-spot, and anal play.
  5. Vibrators are fun.  They come in literally all different colors, shapes, and sizes.
  6. Vibrators can help a man explore his genitals, too. 


A man can use a vibrator on the underside of his penis to help him become erect or to have orgasm.

  • Vibrators can spice things up.  It can be fun to watch your partner use a vibrator or have your partner control how the vibrator is used on you.
  • Vibrators add more intense stimulation that some people either like or need in order to have orgasm.
  • Curiosity is another good reason to try a vibrator.  Why not?
  • A vibrator can make intercourse more fun.  With a man from behind position, a woman can easily use a vibrator on her clitoris.  Or try one of the new vibrating rings, worn on a man's penis and designed for mutual pleasure.

    • Lastly, neither partner should feel threatened by the desire to bring a toy into bed.  It's just that–a toy–and it will never replace the warmth of a close, caring relationship.  But, if you're single, it's a pretty damn good second!