In this Toronto Sun article, Robin Milhausen, an assistant professor at the University of Ottawa, tells it as she sees it. Men, she reports, ask her how to make sex with a woman "astronomical." Her response? "Take out the trash."
It’s a fact borne out by research. Men who help around the house do report having more sex. Of course, causation does not prove causality, but it does seem to comport with what female clients tell me. Those whose partners help little around the house, or just with tasks of living (making an appointment to get those tires rotated or get the kids to the dentist, for example) are more likely to complain of a lack of desire.
And it isn’t just related to fatigue, although that’s part of it. Women whose partners help around the house tend to feel that they are part of a team, working to make a life together. It makes some women feel cozy knowing that their partner has taken an interest in making home a good place to be from an emotional standpoint, and that coziness translates into intimacy.
But to be honest, for some couples, it probably doesn’t make much difference. Not all women care that much about things domestic (like my husband’s cousin who famously turned her kitchen into a breezeway and declared a war on cooking), and sometimes they are married to men who don’t care that much, either.
Still, if you’re a man without much luck between the sheets, you might try folding them once in awhile.