So my little math lesson for today is an equation for bad sex. Yes, people do have bad sex. Awful sex. Stay awake at night in the dark, geez this is terrible sex.
What makes sex bad? First of all, bad communication. I don't just mean, "Hey, could you move a millimeter south with your tongue," communication. I mean lousy nonverbal communication, like acting as if you were a statue in bed with your partner. And insults! People say mean things about each other's bodies, odors, kisses, private parts, etc.
The poor boundaries? That has to do with giving in to sex when you don't want it, or pushing
your partner into sex because you do. It's coercing your partner into acts they don't like, or being so inhibited that it's the missionary polka every time you play together.
You know what I would love? If you and your partner would discuss this equation and see how you might change it to create better sex, and if you're brave enough, leave a comment.