When couples who have been married or committed for a long time think about passionate sex, they generally are referring back to the earliest moments of intimacy in their relationship. They don’t know why sex felt better then, they just know why that it doesn’t feel as good any more. (Except maybe when they have “vacation sex.”)
What was it about that initial lovemaking that made it so…passionate?
Sad but true, after awhile, reality set in. Your lover’s body was, well, a body. After you’ve seen and felt it enough, it’s not longer new. You got close—sometimes, too close. In fact, enough with the closeness already! Laundry piled up and work really couldn’t wait. And how could you possibly be playful when you’re an adult, with responsibilities and things?
How do you get it back?
Today, my colleague Ron Frederick, PhD is launching his book, Living Like You Mean It. If you purchase his book from Amazon or Barnes & Noble, you can get a bunch of really cool bonuses from a bunch of really cool people. (Ooops, I’m one of those people, which I guess means I think I’m really cool! Well, for a 50+ white mom married for 23 years, yeah, I think I am!) Anyway, Ron interviewed me on the topic of passion, but you can only access the recording if you buy a copy of his book. Ron and I had fun making the recording, I guess you could say it’s because I’m passionate about helping people have passionate sex.