10 Surefire Tips for a Great Marriage
Do you know the 10 simple things you can do to improve your relationship today? Dr. Stephanie Buehler, psychologist and sex therapist in Orange County, CA shares her expertise.
Low Sex Drive in Men
Leading sex therapist Dr. Stephanie Buehler gives quick tips for addressing low sex drive in men.
No Fireworks? 5 Steps to Revive a Boring Sex Life
Fireworks enchant us. They suggest fantasy and fun with fleeting moments of intense spark. That's why sex and fireworks are so often compared. But admit it, your sex life may have fizzled like an aerial display above a gloomy harbor.What is...
Passionate Sex: 3 Keys to Sexual Excitement
"I want to feel wanted," is a refrain I often hear from clients who are in the throes of a relationship meltdown. And what makes someone feel more wanted than having someone they cherish make passionate love to them? Unfortunately, all too...
10 Top Reasons to Use a Vibrator (Even If You’re Married)
More than half of women and nearly half of men have used a vibrator as part of their sex play, according to a blog post by sex educator Cory Silverberg. That's compared to only 1% of people way back in the 70's (but I'm guessing most people lied,...
Would You Rather Be Having Sex than Blogging About It?
Yes, I took a hiatus from blogging about sex last week. Look, I'm a psychologist, and we don't disclose a lot that's personal about ourselves, because when a client is in the office, it's all about you. But I can tell you that it can...
“Smart” Women and Orgasm: Don’t Feel Bad Over “Low EQ”
Late last week, the media buzzed about a research article that suggested that "smart" women are more likely to experience orgasm than...dumb ones? [If you want the quick skinny, check Dr. Petra Boynton's blog posts, in which she criticizes both...
Alternatives to Having an Extramarital Affair
In my last post, inspired by Elizabeth Edwards' book promo tour, I wrote about why affairs occur, and promised to post answers to solving a bad marriage, because in general having an affair isn't one of them.If sexual frustration is one of the reasons you are...
How to Start Having Sexual Pleasure and Stop Worrying about What’s Normal
I came across a good article at EmpowerHer by colleague Marty Klein, a marriage and family therapist, on what's normal when it comes to sex. The section that most interested me was on performance anxiety, a very common but not especially normal problem in...
A Simple Marriage? Are You Kidding Me?!
"A Simple Marriage" is filled with simple marital advice. I guess it's written for simple couples. Do you know any simple couples? I don't.In fact, to me the idea that a marriage can be simple is simply ridiculous. My own...
Men! Want to Make Sex Better? “Take Out the Garbage!” Says Researcher
In this Toronto Sun article, Robin Milhausen, an assistant professor at the University of Ottawa, tells it as she sees it. Men, she reports, ask her how to make sex with a woman "astronomical." Her response? "Take out the...