It’ll Take More than Lotion to Solve Couples’ Sex Problem
Every once in awhile, someone in my office at The Buehler Institute will tell me what they’ve done to get their sex life on track with their partner. Things like: Renting some pornography Going on vacation somewhere exotic Doing something to make themselves...
Sexual Misunderstandings: A Guide to Better Sexual Communication
It was Bob & Carol's anniversary. He had too much to drink, and she ate something that turned her stomach. Still, they had sex--very unsatisfying, stop-and-start, unromantic sex. In the morning, Carol was very cool to Bob, but he...
Coitocentricity: When All Sex Leads to Intercourse
Northwestern Professor Gregory Ward teaches a class in Sex & Language at Northwestern University, where he has coined the term "coitocentric," as described in this Northwestern U online article by Sally Slater. Root word = coitus, centric =...
Passion, Romance, Or “Just Friends”: What Kind of Couple Is Happiest?
I'll spare you the suspense--the winner is, the romantic couple in the long-term. But what the heck is the diff between a passionate couple, a romantic couple, and a couple that are "just friends"? After all, all couples need to be...
12 Big Sex Mistakes that Women Should Avoid
Just like men, women make some bedroom blunders, too, when it comes to sex. In fact, women are sometimes worse culprits when it comes to buying into sexual myths like, "Men are like a lightswitch, they are either 'on' or 'off' when it comes...
Dirty Dozen: 12 Big Sex Mistakes Every Man Should Avoid
When your job is to listen to people's sexual difficulties, you start to pick up on certain patterns. One of those patterns are the mistakes that many men make when it comes to understanding not only a woman's sexuality, but their own. ...
10 Keys to Staying Sexually Connected If You Are Chronically Ill
I originally became a sex therapist when I worked with an endocrinologist--a physician that specializes in hormonal imbalances and diseases--and treated people with all kinds of chronic illnesses. I also did some of my training with teens and children with...
When Life Throws Curveballs: Sexuality and Chronic Illness
Tomorrow I'll be speaking at a conference held by the Women's Sexual Health Foundation on the topic of chronic illness and sexuality. Not a terribly sexy topic, huh? But with approximately 16 million Americans diagnosed with a chronic illness...
Passion: Making Love Like You Mean It
When couples who have been married or committed for a long time think about passionate sex, they generally are referring back to the earliest moments of intimacy in their relationship. They don’t know why sex felt better then, they just know why that it doesn’t...
Who Is Dr. Hoo-Ha and Why Did She Get an Award?
Get ready to laugh; I did! Click to read a spoof on The Onion. Could it get any sillier when it comes to talking about the science of women's sexuality?What's pertinent to me is that on Friday Andrew Schorr of the radio program "Patient...
Why a Sex Blog Is Important
I haven't posted in nearly a week, not because I haven't had anything to say, but I've been busy! Last week I gave a 2-day sex therapy training in Canada, this week I'm off to NY to talk about sexuality and chronic illness. But I want to...