The Glamorous Life of a Sex Therapist (Not!)

Every month I get a dozen--or two dozen, or three--emails from well-intended students and adults asking me how to become a sex therapist.  It's a profession that seems to have gone from marginal to hubba hubba in fairly short order.I guess if you see someone...

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Hot Monogamy: The Sexy First Couple

I saw an article by Mike Alvear on the Huffington Post on the Obamas bringing a little sexual pizzazz into the White House.  The comments are interesting--some people thought he went too far in talking about the Obamas' sexuality.  Hmm, kind of like...

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The Mysterious Secret to Having Better Sex

The couples that come into my office at The Buehler Institute for help are, unfortunately, good at bad sex.  After seeing them first as a couple, I usually then meet with them one on one.  That's when they open up and tell me truths like these:...

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When Sex Is a Frill

Why is it, I wonder, that people think of sex as being either extravagant or frivolous?  Maybe it's because you're not told about the benefits of pleasure you don't know that sexual activity is good for your health you think of sex as being something...

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Sex Grows Cold When There’s No Gap for a Spark

Once upon a time, there was a couple who did everything together.  They ate breakfast together.  They ate dinner together.  They even got on the phone together to talk to either set of parents.  On Thursday, they bowled.  On Saturday,...

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When It Comes to Sex, Women Want to Be Wanted

The New York Times ran a magazine article, What Do Women Want?, on Sunday, that I think will probably cause more confusion than clarification.  Even with all the scientific sexology hoopla, I don't think the article brings us any closer to knowing about...

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