The Sex Contract: Every Couple Has One!
Did you know that all couples have a sex contract? The sex contract may be openly negotiated and settled, or it may be entirely secret from both partners. What is a sex contract? A sex contract is an agreement between two partners about how sex is going to...
Q&A: I’m glad I divorced, so why can’t I get an erection with my girlfriend?
Men may have problems with sex after a divorce. They may not talk about it, nor do their partners. Why this is so is somewhat of a mystery because there seem to be no studies on the topic. The assumption is that men like sex; they may have missed having sex as the...
Test Your STD Knowledge: 5 Myths about STDs
What do you know about sexually transmitted disease, aka STDs? If you’ve never contracted one, then you have either had only one partner, or you have been smart enough to use protection, or you’ve just been lucky so far! Here, then, are 5 myths about STDs that just...
The Silent Misery of Sexual Desire Disorder
You see them all around you: Couples that look happy enough, perhaps enjoying dinner at a popular restaurant, riding bicycles along a tree lined lane, or sharing popcorn as a movie. But they have a secret that they’re not telling: They argue about sex all the time....
10 Fast Facts about Sex Therapy Training for Therapists
I can sum up my experience of teaching my first sex therapy intensive training in one word: Exhilarating! But that doesn't tell you anything about why I felt like I was floating after I finished the second weekend of the training. I thought I'd give you 10 fast facts...
All Therapists Need Sex Therapy Techniques
Therapists need sex therapy techniques if they have a desire to help their clients achieve full mental and relational health. Sex therapy techniques can help clients become aware of and express their sexuality fully. When a person feels free to explore their...
Sex Problems After Baby
Many couples struggle with sex after the birth of a baby. In fact, it is so common a problem that most people just accept that sex is off the table with a new baby in the house. There's just not enough sleep, time, or energy to go around. Midnight feedings, diaper...
What If You Love Your Partner But Hate Sex?
When someone hates sex, they truly find it disgusting. They might grin and bear it when they have sex, or avoid it altogether. Hating sex is a serious problem. Sex therapists call hatred of sex a sexual aversion. What Is a Sexual Aversion? A sexual aversion can be...
Sex Therapist in Scientific American Text, Video
I think I represented my sex therapy profession well in a recent project I completed in collaboration with Scientific American. Several months ago I was approached by a textbook author to be featured in Scientific American's Psychology textbook to talk about my...
Sex Therapy Q&A: Male or Female Therapist?
Here's a question that people sometimes ask when they call to get information before setting an appointment for sex therapy, "Should I (or my partner) see a male or female sex therapist?" The answer is, of course, it depends. But on what factors? Some thoughts: If...
5 Valentine’s Day Mistakes You Should Never Make
Ah, Valentine’s Day! You can almost hear the birds sweetly tweeting, see the crocuses (croci?) crowning through the soil, and smell the spicy chocolate wafting through the air. Valentine’s Day—a sappy occasion to spend money? Or a day to honor your love for...